8 things why you should NOT ask 'When are you gonna have another baby?'

1. It's really not of anyone's business!
2. OK, so it's basa basi, well, but it's BASI! try to be more creative in asking question to other people.
3. What if the couple you asked were having health problems, that they actually really wanted to have another baby, but they cant?? what do you think the question gonna make them feel??
4. What if the couple you asked were  having domestic problem, like one of them was abusive and the other was struggling how to take care her/himself and the kid?? what do you think the question gonna make them feel?
5. What if the couple you asked were having financial problem, that for everyday life they almost couldnt afford anything? that they might even have to get their kid being adopted? are you going to donate some money to them??
6. What if the current child the couple had was having challenge, that they had to concentrate in raising him/her?
7. Would you feel better if every couple you ask to have another baby, follow your 'advice' and DO have another kids but all the kids were abandoned? not being taking care of because the parents simple couldnt handle more than 1 kid?
8. What if the couple you asked were not good parents, that their only kid was never in a good care. Does having another kid will make them better parents???

Ask those questions to yourself before you ask other person the 'Q'

Days @ Work : when you do things wholeheartedly...good things will come to you..

Today I worked full shift and it was crazy! Customers over customers and there were only 2 of us in the department.
Then when the store almost close, I was just about to ring customer, my Co, called me 'Suri, come here'
I turned to her puzzled, wondering why she needed me, cause I didnt think I helped the customer ( I didnt see the customer, I just assumed he was gonna buy something).
'What's up?' I asked.
'Here. He wanted you to have this." she answered and pointed on something.
'Want me what??' I replied more puzzled. I looked where she pointed and there it was, a box of chocolate, still confused...I obliviously said 'No, it's not mine...
'No, no' said my Co, 'This is for you, from him!'
Then I looked up to see who the customer was, I did recognized him, he was the son of the customer I helped yesterday with suit..
Turned out that they left the cellphone at the store yesterday while shopping and now the Son came to pick up the cellphone and at the same time brought this box of chocolate for me!
I was speechless, all I could say was 'Hi. How r u?This is for me???'
He answered 'Yes, that's from My Dad, he thought you shoud have it cause you were so nice and really helpful yesterday.'
I felt my jaw dropped...it was really sweet of them to think about me and decided to give me a box of chocolate!
I was so happy and thank the Son (& The Dad) for the suprised lil gift!
So..that day, eventhough I felt my feet were gonna fell out of me cause I've been continously running here and there helping customer, having the box of chocolate in my handbag reminded me that some customers came home and felt really happy for my assistance!!
( Dear Mr. Wayne somewhere in Bozeman, thank you for the chocolate, you made my day wonderful!!)

Seri 'Hidup di Amrik' #53 : about marriage and babies...

There 2 things that REALLY REALLY suprised me about American, even until now.
For some reasons, in my mind I have always thought that American in general will get marry later and have less babies (than Indonesian for instance)
Maybe because the images of US that I am familiar of are big cities, career-oriented people, expensive living cost etc etc.
So, when I learnt that a lot of American actually got married when they are 23, I was 'shocked'
And my reaction is always .......puzzled...????
Most of the time I cant help myself looking at the person (especially if I know them) and wondering to myself...'R U sure? You're still young!! Get career! Have fun! Gee..you're brave!' etc etc etc..
Every single time, I heard someone is getting married in such young age, I am still 'astound' even until now...
That's my 1st astonishment...
The 2nd is about # of children in the family.
Again, my images about American is always 'modern family, 2 children, both working parents' (why? dont know!)
This perspective is even 'stronger', especially after living here, I learnt how tough it is where you have to take care everything yourself, unlike in Indonesia-where a family can afford to have 1 or more baby sitters and maids.
I feel I really cant have more than 1 child if I have to do everything myself..so very likely other women would feel the same way...
But I was wrong!
I've seen a lot of women with an 'army' (more than 2 kids!) doing groceries store without any man around! And it's not just one time! A lot of time! Not just that, these women also able to take all the kids to different kind of activities here and there...
Wuiiihhh!! 2 thumbs up for those women!
And these women are BULE!!!!

 

Seri 'Hidup di Amrik' #53 : about marriage and babies...

There 2 things that REALLY REALLY suprised me about American, even until now.

For some reasons, in my mind I have always thought that American in general will get marry later and have less babies (than Indonesian for instance)

Maybe because the images of US that I am familiar of are big cities, career-oriented people, expensive living cost etc etc.

So, when I learnt that a lot of American actually got married when they are 23, I was 'shocked'

And my reaction is always .......puzzled...????

Most of the time I cant help myself looking at the person (especially if I know them) and wondering to myself...'R U sure? You're still young!! Get career! Have fun! Gee..you're brave!' etc etc etc..

Every single time, I heard someone is getting married in such young age, I am still 'astound' even until now...

That's my 1st astonishment...

The 2nd is about # of children in the family.

Again, my images about American is always 'modern family, 2 children, both working parents' (why? dont know!)

This perspective is even 'stronger', especially after living here, I learnt how tough it is where you have to take care everything yourself, unlike in Indonesia-where a family can afford to have 1 or more baby sitters and maids.

I feel I really cant have more than 1 child if I have to do everything myself..so very likely other women would feel the same way...

But I was wrong!

I've seen a lot of women with an 'army' (more than 2 kids!) doing groceries store without any man around! And it's not just one time! A lot of time! Not just that, these women also able to take all the kids to different kind of activities here and there...

Wuiiihhh!! 2 thumbs up for those women!

And these women are BULE!!!!

 

  

 

The Gerber's Story

Sometime in 2006, after July, before October, I enrolled Abraham in Gerber Organic Contest online. The picture I chose was when he was about 6 months old. He was just crawling then.

Just before I left Indonesia, I received a notice stating that Abraham has won the contest, and that I should wait for further notice. When I was in Indonesia, I had my Hub to send me the paper works from Gerber to sign and return as part of the procedure before Gerber announced the Winner online.

On December 2006, just couple of weeks after We got back from Indonesia, Gerber's representative and their Photographer came to do photo shooting for Abraham. It was taken place in Holiday Inn Express in town.

In 2007, we finally can see the announcement online about the contest...

Gerber promised his picture would be in Organic Rice Box in Spring 2007. Spring passed, Summer passed, Fall was back, still no product found on the market. My patience evaporated. I tried calling Gerber, but nobody seemed to know what's going on. I even called Gerber's HQ in NY and left about 1000 messages, unanswered....

I was preparing a letter to be mailed to NY Post or any other newspaper about the case, when finally someone from Gerber called!! It was already 2008!

She finally found out the problem, promised us to get things straightened up.

March 2008, Gerber sent us some goodies and the copy of the pictures during the photo shooting...

Gerber said, they would still use Ab's pic and it should be in Gerber's Organic product, and it's expected to be out in the market on Fall 2008.

Then finally, today, November 11 2008, a UPS guy came carrying a huge box in front of our door. And here it is...........

 

It feels that We couldnt be any happier!!

It is a Gerber Organic Product- 6 pack of baby first food, assorted fruit and vegetables.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hari-hari di Tempat Kerja : Setahun sudah Saya bekerja!!

Yap! 11 November ini Saya genap satu tahun bekerja di M. Diawali dari Pekerja Musiman, sekarang Saya termasuk Pekerja Inti (core) paruh waktu di bagian Pria.

Hasilnya?

Alhamdulillah...

Bisa nabung untuk Ab besar nanti, untuk biaya prasekolah Ab, dan untuk Saya sendiri.

Punya uang untuk beli pernak pernah untuk diri sendiri....

(bad sides : my closet is now full of black clothes!!, more shoes, more handbags!!)

Kepikiran tahun depan mau 'istirahat' dulu, karena ternyata pekerjaan ini cukup 'melelahkan' batin....

What do u think has happened?

This is our front door. This was the way My Hub looked at it when he came home from work today. Me and Ab were inside the house.

Do you see anything wrong on the pic?
Perhaps this pic would give you clearer view...


Hint :
(In the afternoon Me and Ab went out to do groceries shopping and played in the park for abit. Both Me and My Hub carry our own house key and car key.)